Nak Kahwin Sangat? Pergilah! Kalau Berani..

Assalamualaikum.
Haaai hehehhe.. :)

Aku baru sahaja selesai membaca blog kak Maria Elena, "Girl Talk Part 4 : The Nikah". Ya Allah sweetnya! The most exciting part is when kejanggalan yg teramat utk salam dgn suami for the first time! Hahaha. I can imagine if I was her. I will think the same thing too! Masa bercinta mana boleh pegang tangan, lepas kahwin? Salam dgn suami kita depan tetamu yg dtg! Cewah 'suami kita' you. Hahaha. No maybe it sounds funny for now but as for me, time flies too fast. You might be getting married at 20 years old? Maybe. Because we don't know how Allah's plan for our future, for our life. Some people prefer to getting married earlier when they are around 20 to 21 years old. Reason? To avoid from any wrong doings. And.. maybe akulah orgnya! Hahaha *okay diam!* But something has cut my dream off. *betul ke ayat tu?* I remember, one fine day before SPM during Chemistry intensive class, entah macam mana dan apa yg menyebabkan kami cerita pasal hal ini aku tidak ingat. My teacher said, "tak perlulah nak kahwin awal-awal.. itu yg byk yg cerai-berai.." *itu ayat aku sebenarnya! hahaha dah tak ingat tapi kira point lebih kuranglah. heee* And starting on that day, I was wondering why I cannot keep myself with my dream of getting married earlier. Jeng jeng jeng! Then one day Alhamdulilah I have finally meet the answer of my question..

If I'm not mistaken I watched Wanita Hari Ini or Al-Hidayah or Nona, kot. Hahaha sorry for my weak memory! Kesian otak. Makan Maggi byk sangatlah agaknya.
Menurut kefahaman aku, perkahwinan awal memang boleh mengelakkan maksiat tetapi kenapa rata-rata yg berkahwin awal ada risiko utk bercerai? Kerana.. Seseorang lelaki yg hendak kahwin mesti ada ilmu! Bukan setakat belajar sampai phD, ilmu tentang agama, ilmu rumahtangga, cara didik isteri, cara didik anak-anak dan segala ilmu sebagai penjamin kebahagiaan dunia dan akhirat. Susahkan?

The most important point that I want to highlight is, even though we are very sure that we are ready to live as husband and wife but actually we are not ready at all! Berkahwin pada umur muda maknanya pengalaman pun kurang. Bila hadapi masalah mungkin kita tidak mampu atasinya dgn bijak secara bersama. So that's why kahwin awal tidak digalakkan sgt. In my opinion, kahwin awal atau kahwin lambat both have pros and contras. It depends on ourselves how smart we are to deal with it. Apa-apa pun jodoh di tangan Allah. Sampai awal atau lambat terima dgn hati terbuka, ikhlas dan redha.

Makanya, kenapa aku cerita pasal kahwin? Saja :) Sekadar kongsi pendapat dan sebagai catatan tentang apa yg aku simpulkan sendiri daripada apa yg aku tonton dan baca. Wassalam.